Shared Memories of Betty
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From:
Cecelia Koleno
Now, I could go on and on about my amazing grandma. The many coffee runs, the hours and hours of small talk with our cha cha, shopping and having girls days, having sleepovers. She always felt like a big sister to me somehow. I remember her taking me and Nelson to Ida’s gymnastics and talking during most of the time.
I never thought that would be the last goodbye. I never thought we would be reading a poem about “spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year” by her on the night before, I never thought I would only have this much time, and I never thought grandma would soon die. I know I’ve only been around for so long but I know she probably hasn’t been in a hospital since my aunts birth. I
loved my grammy and she was a huge aspect of my life. It made my day when she would call after my volleyball practice. I loved the way she loved me. I loved grammy to the moon and back and I will forever miss you, papa, and others that have passed on. Now this is my time to let go and say happy birthday in heaven.
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From:
Jessica Koleno
Betty was the best Grammy a kid could ask for! She practically begged Dan and me to watch our kids so we could get a night away. The kids loved a Grammy sleepover--They always consisted of baking and decorating cookies (with way too many sprinkles), ordering Domonoes pizza, playing games, watching movies, staying up late, and sleeping in Grammy's bed.
When Betty came to our house to watch the kiddos one night, she casually asked me if I was binging any good TV shows. I told her I had started Handmaid's Tale, and that it was really good, but really graphic and a bit deranged. When Dan and I got home from date night, Betty was in the middle of episode 3. She greeted us with eyes wide, mouth open, saying, "What the hell did you just have me watch?" I felt terrible and couldn't help thinking that I had just horrified her.
The next week, when Betty came back over to watch the kids, the first thing she asked me was....."What's your Hulu login? I NEED to see what happens in the Handmaid's Tale!" hahahahahah!
I love you, Betty. Thank you for always treating me like a daughter of your own. You raised a great man, who has become a phenomenal husband and father. Your continual optimism and ability to always see the good in people will carry on within our family. Rest in peace.
From:
Rosean Gomer
Oh Lieeeez!
I know you will be so missed by all those grandchildren and the four children. We haven't been in touch for many years, but I will say I have always truly loved you.
When I needed a laugh, you were always the one with the most fun humor, and you were always the one who would tell it like it is!
I did not know your husband passed away a year ago, and now...in faith in our Lord Jesus Christ, you are together.
You so LOVED that framed portrait I had of Jesus, I wanted you to have it. It made me so happy to give it to you.
Needless to say, I did not become a hairdresser, but I certainly practiced on yours... and my hair....back in the day.
If I had gotten to see you again, I have no doubt we would have begun where we left off.
I know your family has so many wonderful memories, what a beautiful legacy you have left. My heart goes out to all of you.
Love,Cracklin' -[rosie] (your name for me...) and by the way, Mary Jane let me know your name for her...."Dorothy"...it was those patent leather leather shoes at St. Joes....
From:
Carol Beavers
January 13, 1955 - 66 years ago the good Lord blessed us with my beautiful sister Elizabeth Joy.
There are so many wonderful things I could say about my Sister but reading the other thoughts people have written and told me, it seems many of my feelings have already been expressed.
Growing up with 3 sisters was a great experience. Betty and I shared a bedroom together for many years. Although our room was rarely neat Betty was always put together. She always had on the latest fashions and was classy from head to toe. I remember when she worked at Western Electric in Lisle and she bought an orange Pinto. She would always have her drivers seat as far back as it would go so she wouldn’t get a crease or wrinkle in her pants. Not sure what she did at work when she was sitting all day. Whatever she did it caught Mike’s eye.
Other memories were eating fish sticks on Fridays, drinking lots of KoolAid, laying in the sun while listening to the transitor radio, listening to albums and 8 tracks, and doing our best to avoid going into the shed to get our bikes where there were lots of spiders and sometimes snakes.
Liz was a positive person. I remember times when I would say something negative and she would always tell me to say “cancel.”
One bad memory I know we would both agree upon is my Mom doing laundry on Monday’s for our family of 9. My Mom didn’t like using the dryer so in the summer we had to hang all the clothes/towels outside and then when the clothes and towels dried we had to take them all down and fold them. The one good thing was hoping we would be able to go to the Wild Goose in Joliet to see whatever band was playing. In winter months it was the same process except the clothes were hung in the basement. Because the clothes/towels would not be dry the same day we had a little break. However, the day would come when everything would be dry so down to the basement we went.
Blessings were showered on our family. I remember sharing in the joy of the birth of Betty and Mike’s four children and her becoming “Grammy” to their ten grandchildren. It was fun to share in their individual personalities and witness the love they shared with their siblings and cousins.
Knowing I always looked on Betty and Mike’s family as my own, they included me in their family functions and vacations. Now their children continue to do the same for me and I appreciate their love and kindness.
I miss my Sister so much. She had such a great personality and was so fun!!! I will never be able to express the love I have for her. Her loving ways, her kindness, her generosity and her dedication to her family to only name a few of her qualities. My life will never be the same without my confidant and best friend. You are irreplaceable Betty. And you have lived up to the name that Mom and Dad gave you – Elizabeth Joy. You have filled all of our lives with so much joy in so many ways.
Betty you were an Angel on Earth and now an Angel in Heaven surrounded by our loving family that have gone before us. You will never know what you mean to me Liz.
When I think about your passing this is one time I wish I could say “cancel” and you’d be here again.
Happy Birthday Liz!!!! I miss you and I love you!
From:
Julia Koleno
Today is Betty’s birthday, her first birthday not with us.. Selfishly, we all wish she was still here with us.. It’s taken me some time to compose my thoughts.. Betty was so much more to me than my Mother-In-Law, she was the most amazing mother-in-law I could have ever hoped for and something I never took for granted. I can still remember the first time I met her when Mike and I first started dating.. The hug she gave me was so welcoming and I just loved her instantly.
A couple months ago we were reminiscing about our wedding day.. Before the Ceremony started I became very emotional and insisted on seeing Mike before walking down the aisle. Betty embraced me, calmed me down and said it will be amazing walking down and seeing each other at the alter for the first time on our wedding day. When we were reminiscing that moment together she told me she wished she’d let me see Michael, but I told her I was grateful she didn’t. And I told her she was right, it was an amazing feeling seeing each other at the alter.
Betty was at the hospital after each four of our kids were born. I can still hear her amazing laugh when she’d hold each grandchild for the first time, you could just see the instant love she had. And that love visibly grew over the years with each and every time spent together. A few days before her passing, she took Ida to gymnastics and Cecelia and Nelson wanted “to go with Grammy”. Everyone always wanted to go with Grammy whether it was to the store, to Starbucks, to a sporting event or a sleepover. It really didn’t matter where to, everyone always wanted to spend time with Grammy.
These kids are so blessed to have had Betty as their Grammy and I’m so blessed to have had her as my MIL. I know as time passes things will get easier. But right now, we’re all still so sad. There hasn’t been a day that’s gone by that I haven’t thought about her without crying. As we all know, she really was amazing!!
Happy birthday Betty. I love you so much and and miss you incredibly!
From:
Karen Vetrovec
About a year before Mike had passed, I gave Mike, things my late husband had, sports treasures to pass onto you guys. Both he and Betty were thrilled, we had a great lunch. I enjoyed the visit with both of them so much.
My late Rich and Mike go back since before he met your mom, truly funny stores, and their friendship/brotherhood continued until my late Rich passed. What a full filling life your parents led May you find comfort knowing they are now "side by side", and remember the great times.
From:
Bill and Karen Gillett
A beautiful lady, inside and out; very loving, giving, caring, and patient.... and she made the best shrimp salad you ever tasted! Rest in peace, and tell Mike "Hi". You were both loved, and will be missed by many.
From:
Dawn Bishop
I have put this off for as long as I can. I honestly don't have words to describe our Betty. She was my coworker. She became my work friend. She has become one of my dearest and most-loved friends ever. We laughed and cried together. We shared our work stories - the private ones, too. We shared our families with each other. She was probably the very best listener of all time. We worked in the Principal's Office at LTHS Central Campus together for so many years I can't remember how many. We sat five feet apart. We could be deep in a conversation when somebody would walk into our office. We stopped our conversation, took care of business, and then resumed our conversation. We knew each other's "looks". We could almost read each other's minds. We loved each other's families from hearing the many stories and sharing the milestones - weddings, new babies, etc.
Betty loved and adored her kids, their spouses, her grandkids, her siblings, her parents, and her family. She was fiercely protective of them. When Betty said she was going to retire after last school year, I knew I would have to also. There was no way I would have been able to keep working without her at the other desk. So, on June 8, 2021, we both walked out of Central Campus at the same time forever. Her kids, spouses, and grandkids, and her sister were all there to wish her well. It was touching beyond words. Since we retired together, we have had numerous phone conversations. We've had lunches with some of the Central girls, and some with just us. We started our new retirement chapter together.
I cannot express how much loss I'm feeling. We had such grand plans for the coming years. I hope and pray for her family. Their loss is huge. Betty was one of a kind. I think we are all going to feel that loss for years to come. Thank God we have memories of her to get us through. May you rest in peace, my dear Betty. You and Mike are together, along with all those who have gone before you. I will miss every, single day without you. I love you, my Betty Boop.
From:
Sarah Weimer
How do you capture what an incredible person Betty was in just a few short words? It seems impossible. Betty was a fixture in the LTHS Central Principal's Office for my first 13 years there. She had a warm aura about her that you felt as soon as you stepped into the office. She was genuinely enthused to see everyone who walked through the door. I can still hear her saying, "How are you, Miss Sarah?" or her attempts to get Dawn's attention - "Dawny! Sarah needs you!"
When I got married, she insisted that I show her pictures. Luckily, Laura Gilbert and Mary had made a one-hour photo book the day of my wedding, so I was able to show those to Betty and Dawn. They cooed over them as if they were second mothers. And indeed, that's what Betty was to so many of us at Central - a second mom who made us smile and feel like we belonged there. I regret that I will not be able to show her pictures of my baby due in March. I know she would have had the same reaction! Betty's absence from Central this Fall was immediately palpable, but I was comforted in knowing that she had retired on her own terms to spend more time with her family, especially her grandchildren. In retrospect, I do not think she could have made a better decision!
To the Koleno family, especially my dear friend, Mary - I cannot express the depth of my sorrow for you and what you have lost far too soon. Please know how much your mother loved you and how much her face would light up when she talked about you. Thank you for sharing your mom with us at LTHS for so many years! I hope you are comforted by the fact that so many people loved her and will miss her terribly!
From:
Jen Cunnane
I was lucky enough to go to lunch with Betty just a few days before she died. A small group of us from work met & ate at the glamorous George's. We caught up on each other's lives, we laughed a lot, we gossiped a little. Betty talked about missing Mike but as always, faced it with her trademark good spirit & good humor. We had a normal, everyday lunch with friends and I will forever be grateful that we didn't reschedule. Especially since Betty brought Hollingsworth toffee for each of us-I would have hated to miss that.
I have a million memories of Betty, and she's laughing in everyone of them. Probably the best memory is of her & Dawn's last day at work. We were down to just the skeleton summer staff, and we spent most of the day laughing, crying, telling stories and making plans. She took great photos with her dearest friend Dawn, and then walked off into the sunset...only to find almost her entire family out front of the school. They had balloons, posters, confetti, and were hooting & hollering in celebration. It was the perfect transition from worker bee to full time grandma. As I walked to my car, I saw her turn the corner toward her house, holding the hand of one of her grandkids, surrounded by her family. She was happy and loved and knew it. I will always remember her that way.
I love my Betty. May she rest in peace and laughter.
From:
Nancy and Neil Stanton
We have been pondering how best to remember Betty. There are so many things to be said. We have great memories of "grandparenting" with Betty. Games, Concerts (3 of the same this year), Christenings (who broke the Christ Candle-and Betty telling the deacon that his mic was still on), dances, dinners, births and many more.
We loved her signature line..."Fer Sure" whenever something stuck her as true, funny or she agreed!! To the best Mom to her kids and their spouses, Grandma, sister, friend and co-Grandparent..."fer sure" Betty...Fer sure. We will miss you and will do our best to be grandparents without you while always reminding the kids about the memories we share.
Love Nancy and Neil
From:
Carolyn Dewart
As a child, I loved visiting the Koleno family. The house seemed alive: my cousins running around, Uncle Mike making delicious meals, endless trips to the mall, and fun-filled sleepovers. Aunt Betty was always so welcoming, full of life, and never missed a chance to ask how you were doing.
When I announced my pregnancy this year, Aunt Betty and her sisters showered me with love. Gift after gift arrived at my door. Aunt Betty reached out to ask if she could have a blanket made. She told me that she had one made for all of her grandchildren and that she wanted my son to have one as well. It was just like Aunt Betty to make you feel so special. The kind gesture brought tears to my eyes. I knew my son and I were loved.
This Christmas Eve I reached out to her. I knew it would be a hard holiday without Uncle Mike. She told me that she was in the kitchen making the famous shrimp dip and that she missed jockeying for space in the kitchen with Uncle Mike. I am lucky to have had one last conversation with her. When I think of Aunt Betty, I will remember her in that kitchen with Uncle Mike surrounded by her family, laughter, and delicious food that brought everyone together.
From:
Kate Fahey
My favorite part of working at Central campus on Thursdays was my visit to the front office to chat with Betty and Dawn! We'd start chatting and before I knew it, an hour would go by.
I often found myself sharing things with Betty that I didn't share with many others. She had that way about her. I found a "home" with Betty because of a shared sense of humor. She would come from left field with some things and leave me doubled over laughing! We also shared a love of chai tea lattes and I'll always think of Betty when I have one. She will always have a place in my heart.
From:
Anne Lee
Betty was like my second mom at work. I could talk to her about anything and we had the best conversations! She was one of my biggest cheerleaders and saviors! Once, I almost set the office microwave on fire and she helped me avoid that catastrophe!
Another time she listened to me rehearse a presentation I had to give to staff as she knew I was a wreck when it came to public speaking. She always asked about my family. I’m heartbroken that she was taken from us too soon. I send so many hugs and love to her family.
From:
Kerri Green
We are all blessed to have been a part of Betty Koleno’s life. She was an inspiration and true role model to all of us. Betty was dedicated to everything she did, loved with every ounce of her being and had a smile that brightened the room.
For the past 25 years I have had the pleasure of watching Betty take care of everyone at Central Campus. Her kindness was extended to every student and staff member. The last decade I was blessed to share an office with some of the most incredible women and Betty took care of all of us. We shared so many laughs, tears and life defining moments. Betty was the one to plan the celebration or pick up the pieces. Everyone knew Betty was the nurturing face of Central. To know Betty was to love Betty. She always put others first and made everyone feel important.
I am so grateful for all our wonderful memories. To the Koleno family, thank you for sharing your mom with us. Please accept my deepest sympathies. You were her world. Being a mom and a Grammy meant everything to her. She always shared her stories and she loved every minute of sleepovers and family events. The day she retired when all of you surprised her outside of Central was one of my favorite memories. It was another example of what a beautiful family you have and how much you all adored your mom.
Betty Koleno, you will forever be in our hearts!
From:
Chris and Amanda Skibinski
Drew, so incredibly sorry to hear about your loss. Our thoughts, prayers, and condolences are with you and your entire family. God Bless
From:
Timm Sahs
I can truly say that I feel blessed to have known Betty, even in the short encounters we've had with her at the family gatherings. I also am so blessed that my daughter married into such a warm loving family. I distinctly remember when my wife & I being honored that Betty & Mike Sr took our invitation to stop at our house when they were in Northern Michigan.
Betty's warm hug & smile and Mike Sr's firm handshake were all I needed to feel relaxed. We always had a great visits whenever we saw them! You could really see where Betty's priorities were, God and Family. She truly was inspiration.
We all wish we had more time with wonderful people, my heart aches for the family . But she lived every moment to the fullest and was a truly great family matriarch.
From:
Andy McKeague
After reading everyone's stories I could not agree more. Mrs. Koleno was the absolute best! The stories could go on and on and I am so happy I was able to visit with Mrs. Koleno a few months back. It was so great to see her and catch up on life, her plans for the future and the old times we all had together in Lockport.
My memories normally start with Dan and I golfing and coming home to Mrs. K asking us our scores, our high school life stories or her just throwing Dan a washcloth to wash his feet before coming inside (for some reason Dan wore no socks to morning golf rounds!!). Mrs. Koleno welcomed me with open arms as a 15 year old kid like she did most others and made me feel like the 4th Koleno brother.
Whether it is was on the patio or in the screen porch she always provided us with great advice or a good laugh to lighten us up after a bad golf round. I love reading these stories and seeing these pictures because she was so happy when I saw her last with the entire family around and the grandkids racing around. I will miss Mrs. Koleno greatly and the memories of my time spent with her will always be with me.
The McKeague family sends our thoughts and prayers to the entire Koleno family. We are very sorry for your loss.
From:
Mary Koleno
I have been thinking so much these last few days about how I could ever narrow down the memories with my Mom to those most special or worthy of sharing. My brothers have always joked that my Mom and I were "best friends." Undoubtedly my Mom and I were incredibly close - reading books together, having a luncheon just the two of us every year to toast to the first days of summer, and endless talks in bed. While we certainly shared a special Mother-Daughter bond, our Mom was the center of all of our worlds. She brought us into this world and raised us with endless adoration. In adulthood, our Mom continued to be the unwavering provider of so much attention, compassion reassurance, guidance, and most importantly, unconditional love. I consider my brothers and I some of the luckiest people in the world to have been on the receiving end of that.
I suppose the most life altering memory I have with my Mom dates back to 2015. From 2014-2019 my Mom and I were coworkers at Lockport Township High School. As you can see on this page, and when you talk to any alum or staff member, past or present, my Mom was a beloved fixture at LTHS. As her daughter's co-worker though, things were just a little different. She never wanted me to take a day off or make a misstep that could in any way tarnish my (our) reputation as Porters. I used to joke with her that she would give me a daily lists of "don'ts" just to keep me in check as her colleague.
The biggest "don't" my Mom assigned me in 2015 led me to my future husband, Weston. It was a hot August afternoon (Central Campus does not have central AC) following the first day back Teacher's Institute. I had a date planned for later that evening. As I sat with some girlfriends from work, I told them I was going to cancel after being so burnt out at the end of a long day of meetings, and they supported me wholeheartedly. A few hours later, I went downstairs to say goodbye to my Mom before I left work for the day. I told her I was going to cancel the date. She furrowed her brow and asked why. I told her frankly, "I don't want to wash my hair." My mom retorted, "Mary, you are absolutely NOT allowed to cancel this date just because you don't want to wash your hair. I am demanding that you go on this date, and you will call me in the morning and tell me at least 10 details about him, so I can know that you really went." I of course laughed, but as all orders from Mom, I obliged. Needless to say, I met Weston. My mom helped plan our wedding, and I am so incredibly grateful that she was able to witness our marriage this summer.
All my Mom ever wanted for me, my brothers, and her grandchildren was to be happy, safe, and fulfilled. All of our lives have been full of abundance because of the love and support from her. There are no words that will ever describe the hole in our hearts without her physically here, but I know our Mom will continue to guide and protect us all the days of lives. I will love and miss you forever, Mommy.
From:
Maia Rosella Novak
I just love reading all of these memories. Betty was one of a kind. Her smile and laugh were infectious. It felt good to be around her. Her hug was always so loving.
I can only pray that I live life more like Betty. I pray I enjoy every day and remember that it is a gift from God like she did. I pray that I smile and laugh as often as her. I pray that I help others like she so frequently did. And I pray that I show love like Betty did. I am so blessed and grateful to have known her.
From:
Maggie Dewart
One of my earliest memories ever is being 5 years old and being invited over to make Christmas cookies. Christmas Eve was my favorite night of the year and I was so excited to come over during the day to help with baking and decorating her famous sugar cookies. I am sure it was actually mass chaos in the Koleno household that day, but I have such warm memories of just spending some quality one on one time with my Aunt Betty while baking.
I wasn't invited back the next year, so I'm thinking my baking skills were subpar even back then. It was such a small thing that has stuck me through the years. What I will miss the most is just getting to sit next to her at a family party. Her hand eventually finding its way to run through my hair and her rings inevitability getting stuck in the thickness of my hair seconds later as she exclaims "Oh Marg!"
From:
Sharon Gerdes
Betty will be truly missed! She was always happy and positive! She would always ask about me and my family and what I was preparing for the upcoming holiday. We worked many football and basketball games together and she was fun to be around!
Her infectious smile and laugh were always present! She was dedicated to her family, friends and LTHS.
From:
Mary Beth Reiter
My sincere sympathy and prayers; tremendous loss for her family and friends.
I last saw Betty at my mom’s wake. She was Betty's godmother and she was best friends with Betty's mom (Marge Beavers). Our family history goes even further back as my grandmother (Kate Flavin) was friends with Betty’s grandmother (Carrie McDonald).
May she rest in the embrace of her Maker…and all the Saints.
From:
Daniela Baratta
Our corner won't be the same. We will miss you tremendously. Truly an Angel 💔
Daniela & George Baratta
From:
Ashley Smith
I remember going over to her house when my daughter was a baby to visit while Mary was in town and she treated Sally and us like we were her family. She just let us come right in and destroy her front porch full of toys like any grandma would do. Being at her home was so calming and felt so welcoming and her presence was so calming. I will never forget that and how it felt.
What an exquisite person with a gigantic heart.
From:
Meagan Hyink
The beating heart of Lockport Central Campus was for years, Betty Koleno. It didn’t matter which position she was in; we all knew we could count on Betty for encouragement, guidance and reasoning. She was a Porter through and through but more importantly she was the calm in a storm, the smile through the tears, the hug of strength when weak, and the laughter and humor needed in the moment. She was everyone’s friend. To know her was to love her. Truly, she was one of a kind.
I became a Porter in 2001. I went to Betty on many occasions as I raced between campuses. She gave me school supplies when mine went missing. She was who I went to to ask questions about anything and everything. She always welcomed me with a smile and nicknamed me Megs immediately. Betty instinctively knew what a person was feeling, saw through the “I’m fine” response and ask more.
Betty was the friendly face that greeted students, parents, teachers and substitutes. She made everyone feel welcome and at ease. I have so many memories of our wonderful conversations, her generous feelings of goodwill and wishes, that there are no words to capture all of Betty’s positivity, goodness, grace, acceptance and inclusion.
She has touched and impacted more lives than can be counted. She was endlessly genuine and kind. Betty was taken too soon and will be sorely missed beyond my ability to articulate.
Rest In Peace Dearest Betty.
From:
Kathy Dewart
My favorite memory was when Mary Ann, Betty & I went to see Telly Savalas at the Sabre Room. It was in the 70’s when he was starring in his television show Kojak. We were sitting at our table and a reporter came up and asked us why we came. I said I loved his tv show and he turned to Betty and asked her the same question. She replied, “I like bald headed older men!” We chuckled and went on to watch and enjoy the show!
We got home just in time to see the interview on channel 2 news. My mom and dad were there and we all laughed at her response. When they came back to Bill Kurtis he said, “well men there is still hope for us!” It was hilarious, wish we had a recording! You never knew when she would come up with a zinger, but it was always a good one!
We shared a room when we were kids and fought over space and neatness or lack there of. I’m glad that we were able to become friends as we got older. I knew she was there if I needed her and I would be for her. I will miss her so much, your sisters are you first friends and she was a great one to have!
Rest in peace!
From:
Judy Carroll
I met Betty when my niece Niki married Drew. It was a somewhat superficial relationship because I’m one of ten aunts and uncles to Niki. But when my brother-in-law passed just before Thanksgiving just before Covid started, she really made an impression on me. We were all emotional and fighting as families do in times of stress, and I remember constantly apologizing because of what was going on and she just kept telling me that it’s not a problem, families fight.
I found support in a source I wasn’t expecting. I looked forward to spending more time with her, but Covid hit and we weren’t able to do this. The world lost a beautiful woman, God gained an angel.
Love and prayers to all!
From:
Kelly Wrather
I spent my formative years wandering over from my grandmother’s house to hang out at the Koleno’s with Mary, who lived next door. Betty was always there to welcome you with smiles and jokes.
She had a running bit where she would greet me by singing out my name (based on a scene from Cheers). Did I watch Cheers? No. But did it make me giggle every time? Yes. She had the best laugh and loved to share that with others.
She will be sorely missed by everyone who’s life she touched, in big ways and small.
From:
Betty and Alan Wrather
Betty was a wonderful dear friend of ours. We have many treasured memories that we will hold deeply in our hearts. She will be missed.
Love, Betty & Alan
From:
Jeanne Uffmann
It’s hard to believe it was over thirty years ago that we became friends. When we moved to Lockport, the Kolenos, Wests, Wrathers, and Widuchs became fast friends, school parents, and church families. Between all of us we had 18 children that were in the same grades and some were best friends. Many church gatherings had all of us running around cooking, serving, cleaning; all shared with tons of laughter.
Between athletics, church, the monthly dinners, dinner dances, bake sales and parental hours we shared we became one big family. With the Pagano’s running the kitchen and Betty and Kim telling Frank he needed to serve more ribs at canal days, or telling Fr Bob it wasn’t fair that he got all the credit for making the ice cream Sundays at Bingo, we laughed way too much.
All of the memories at West’s pool, our trips to Chicago, fall festival, walking around the baseball field while the boys played games were so precious to me and our family. We have so many fond memories of Betty and Mike and our many years at St Dennis, Providence and being grandparents at St Mary's. Gone way to soon, but we were so blessed to spend our “growing” years together.
God Bless you Mike, Drew, Dan and Mary, and all of your loved ones. Much love and sympathy to you all and Aunt Carol….
From:
Mia
When Erik was home visiting one time, Liz and Mike took their boys and Erik fishing. The Koleno boys all caught fish, but not Erik. They stayed until he caught a fish. They were as thrilled as Erik was!! Liz was vested in all her nieces and nephews , as much as her own children.
She was so loving, caring and kind and a fabulous sister.! I cannot imagine my life without her in it!!
From:
Pete Sullivan
I don't think there is a single memory which can capture what a wonderful person Betty was and the impact she had on so many of our lives. She was great in so many ways. She could make the most insane day in the old Dean's Office so much better with a laugh and quick comment.
I learned so much from Mike and Betty as parents and grandparents who centered their lives around the family. She was also the most loyal and thoughtful friend. When I shared that my daughter-in-law was pregnant with our first grandson last year, the most thoughtful note arrived in my mailbox a couple of days later. I will miss running into her at Jewel and just talking about our families and laughing. The last time we texted was right after Thanksgiving when I sent her some pictures of my grandson.
Her last text was "He's beautiful!" with a smiley face. Betty saw the best in everyone. She made us smile. I remain fortunate to have her as a friend.
From:
Michelle
As an LTHS Central employee, one of my favorite places to be was the Principals office so I could hang with Betty and of course her bestie Dawn. I loved that she asked me to bring me my yearly photo albums of my family and she would thoughtfully look at each page, and genuinely cared about my family. We used to laugh to the point of tears as we shared our family stories as well as work stories.
Betty was the most caring, genuine, and lovely woman I have ever met. If there was ever a person who truly embodied being a “Porter” it was Betty. She made Central Campus a Family. I will miss her warm smile and kindness as there is no one quite like Betty.
Love you my friend. My prayers and sympathies for all of Betty’s family. ❤️
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Katie (Dykas) Kishline
My story goes back to my first interview at Lockport. I was super nervous got to Central early for my interview and was sitting in the office waiting. In walks Susie Paulsen to chat with Betty and discuss how they were doing on weight watchers and before I know it we are laughing having a grand old time as though I had worked there for years. Bill Sanderson comes out of his office to call me for my interview he sees us just laughing having a grand old time.
Fast forward to that night when I receive a call from Lockport and Maine Township offering me jobs on the same day. I had to sit with my list of pros and cons of each district and well Maine Township did not have a Betty Koleno that made me feel like family. The rest is history……she is the reason I picked Lockport and for that I am forever grateful she was a part of my life.
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Cindy Vashkelis
Betty was one of the most positive, kind and fun people I’ve ever known….she was a lover of people and she let you know it as often as she saw you… .I am Honored and Blessed to say I knew her and will carry the joy of her spirit in my heart and memory always….I will miss you dear Bettina…”with the birds I share this lonely view with”
Prayers to you all dear beautiful family of Mike and Betty….💔💔
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Val
Some of my fondest high schools memories was romping around with Mary at Bets house. You were beyond kind every time I was around. I remember your wit and wise-crackers on us teenagers that I fondly keep you in my heart as "the-fun" mom. With love, Val
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Ryan Beavers
I just want to reiterate a comment I made to my cousins shortly after hearing of her passing. With the utmost sincerity, aunt Betty was one of my absolute favorite people on this Earth. She had a smile and grace about her that shined in any room she was in. She always seemed to have a lightness about her, an easy going attitude, no matter what the situation. She was an ear when you needed one and had an infectious laugh at the ready whenever the opportunity presented itself. She was the voice of reason and the essence of calm from a large Beavers family of larger than life, alpha personalities.
Above all, she was selfless. I bonded with her more than ever when Papa passed back in 2007. In a random moment at his funeral, I found myself hugging her for what felt like an hour and just sobbed into her shoulder. It was the first loss I had experienced as an adult and it hit really hard. After services, she would call me several times throughout the weeks to check up on me. The woman who'd just lost her own father was checking in on me and asking how I was doing...It felt so backwards, but that was the type of person she was. In a random, unexpected moment of connect the dots from a conversation with my mom, I found out something I never knew last night. Betty was responsible for recruiting my mom into the fitness craze of Jazzercise in the 90s. Through there, she would meet her friend, Janice. Janice would wind up helping my mom get the job she'd spend the next 25 years at. Throughout that time, I would eventually work there for a period of time and meet my future wife, Samantha, who just happened to also work there.
I don't know where my life would be if those random happenings had not taken place. I never even realized, I owed her that thank you. For a million different reasons, I wish I could hug her again. But knowing she's back with uncle Mike, grandma, and papa puts a massive smile on my face. Taken way too soon, but her faith has undoubtedly found her in the most loving, beautiful situation, looking down on all of us. To my cousins and their families, I am so sorry. But I hope you find peace in the understanding that you were able to share life with one of the most beautiful souls to ever walk amongst us. Take care of each other.
Peace and love.
From:
Hannah Christie
Oh, Betty. My heart just aches to think of you not here.
Mary and I became best friends 20 years ago and with that, came entrée to the Koleno family. Betty, Mike, and the whole family have always treated me like I was one of them—whether that meant having me for parties, showing up for me in my darkest moments, or yelling at me that my car was in the wrong spot in the driveway. Even in the day to day, Betty always made sure I was included and felt welcomed. She embodied the adage that everyone is wearing an invisible sign that reads, “make me feel important”, and she did. Always. Betty treated everything that Mary and I did like it was the greatest thing on earth. In her eyes, every idea we had was just wonderful… even when it was far from it. Betty was everyone’s cheerleader and biggest supporter. She beamed with pride and love for all of her children and grandchildren. That love will no doubt now live on in them.
I will miss that infectious laughter and the warm, “Hi, Han!” that filled the room each time I came over. Followed up, of course, with a Diet Pepsi from the front porch and a sit and a chat. I love you, Bets. Thank you for making this world brighter, gentler, and warmer. Thank you for your relentless love and kindness. I will miss you greatly.
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Kara Coyle
Betty Koko (as she was affectionately known) was the first person to welcome me to Central Campus when I came in as a new teacher back in 2004.
Betty felt like another mom to many of us and once we had kids, she felt like another grandmother always asking to see pictures, remembering names, and even ages. Betty made Central feel like home.
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Dennis Hicks
Betty was a caring and giving person. While I worked with Betty at Lockport Central - she always had a way making everyone feel special. I will always cherish our moments together. We laughed together and we sang together.
Betty was a dear friend and will be missed.
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Christine Marie Beavers
Betty just raised the Standard in Heaven Today! Thank You LORD for our Beloved (Bopper). As my heart takes me back to all the wonderful times being in her presence my spirit is still thriving with her right now.
LOVE, HONOUR, LOYALTY, FRIENDSHIP, GOOD MANNER'S & GOOD TIMES. These words are timeless & hard to come by, and Treasured Forever just like Betty!!! I LOVE YOU BOOP! Sending Big Hugs & Love to the Koleno & Beavers Family With His Everlasting!
Love, Christine Beavers
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Kathy Finnen
So many stories I could tell. I feel the most important one right now is how we met 61 years ago in 2nd grade . I was getting transferred to another room because I was a good reader. Of course I was crying as I pushed my desk from one room to another. My grandmother worked at school, so she came to help me and get me to my new teacher. She moved desks to get me situated. Gramma assured me I be okay and would meet new friends. Betty came over to me and said don’t cry I’ll be your friend!💖 The rest is history.
We were in the same class every year except 6th grade! So many memories tucked inside my ❤️From making our communion together, playing go for broke for hours at sleepovers, sharing dinners with the entire family, breaking curfew so many times and being grounded together! Till spending a few hours with her Wednesday night.
She will always be my one true friend. My heart is broken, but I hear her telling me "Kathy it is Gods plan" 🙏🏻 Love you forever my sweet friend💖💖
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Kelly Featherling
Like many, Betty was the first person I met at Central Campus on my first visit after being hired. She gave me my keys, showed me around, and immediately made me feel valued and welcomed, like only Betty could.
After I moved to East Campus, I looked forward to visiting with Betty any chance I had in my stops back at Central. I would walk in the office and she would greet me with, “Let me see those babies!” before taking my phone and scrolling through pictures of my kids.
I recently chatted with her at Target, where she was in the toy aisle, surrounded by her grandkids, attempting to tell them they could only have “one” :) I do not have the words to express how sorry I am that the Koleno kids and grandkids have now lost two of their most special people on days that are supposed to be joyous.
Betty will always hold a special place in my heart ❤️
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Bill Bonko
Mrs. K was the best, a class act. She was the most welcoming person I’ve ever met. She had a sense of humor that everyone appreciated. She always made sure that you were included and treated you like family.
When Danny was getting married my wife and I went to Galena a day early to make a mini vacation out of the weekend. The day of the rehearsal dinner we ran into her at the hotel and she asked us what we were up to. We told her we were gonna find a place to grab dinner and then meet up with everyone later that night. Without hesitation she “ no you’re not, you’re coming to the rehearsal dinner.” When I contested her reply was “Don’t make me come looking for you”. I got the message loud and clear.
As for her sense of humor, I can remember when I was helping Drew move into his townhouse she showed up to help out. As I passed her in the garage she stopped me to thank me for helping Drew. I told her that I was happy to help and that Drew would do the same for me. She looked at me straight faced and said “Bill that’s really nice but I have to tell you something.” I asked her what’s up and she said “I was just talking to Drew in the kitchen and he said that he’s never moving again and he’s never helping anyone move again”.
It was perfect! I will miss her very much. She was one of a kind.
From:
John Beavers
[I can still her saying], "Dad! John left the toilet seat up again!" Hers was the greatest darn laugh. Infectious!!!
I love you Betty Boop, The Booper💔💔
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McDonald Beavers
Boop and Big Mike, this song popped up on my phone this morning - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kPhpHvnnn0Q
There are no coincidences or accidents. Now you both realize that your relationship was nothing short of "perfect".
Sending you Love and Light! - Mac
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Kevin Beavers
Aunt Betty was such a wonderful person down to her beautiful soul. Always was extra amazing to me as my God Mother. I'll forever hear in my head whenever I saw her, "How is my god child?"
Rest easy and enjoy the great company you are now in. I'll forever love and miss you Aunt Betty. See you on the other side!
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Dan Koleno
Man…where do I even start? My mom was so special in so many ways. I love you mom, and will always be inspired by the way that you treated others, your passion and love for life, and your desire to inspire.
One of favorite memories of my mom that I’ve never shared: I called my mom my freshman year of college and asked if I could get my tongue pierced. After much back and forth conversation, I compromised and asked her if I could get my eyebrow pierced instead. She agreed and said, “you can do it, but let’s tell your dad that you need glasses, so he won’t notice when you come home on weekends”. That’s who Betty was. She was always so great at conversations, her outreach, and her overall presence in any room.
You did it all Mom, you’ll be missed by so many. We never did get a final answer to the Biggie/Tupac question though…… Love you!!
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Michael M. Koleno
I will cherish a lifetime of memories with my mom but I will always remember her most as a cheerleader, an advocate and later in life a friend to all of her children. Growing up, my dad was what an older generation might call a complete square. He was insanely overprotective, he believed strongly in rules and discipline and would have been perfectly happy with myself and my brothers wearing our grade school uniforms everywhere we went and rocking a ‘50’s flat top through our early 20’s if need be. He certainly didn’t have an eye for what was cool and rarely was he aware of the changing times unless of course it was to explain to us kids to ignore them :)
My mom was the complete opposite, she understood the challenges of being a kid, of trying to fit in and the importance of being what she would call, “groovy”. Luckily for us, my mom knew how to get my dad to lighten his grip on the reins from time to time. She’d push on our behalf when it made sense and brought a sense of normalcy to our grade school and high school years. And yet she was no pushover, she had a nose for spotting mischief and bent truths and could have easily excelled as a private investigator during our high school years if she had any interest in a career in law enforcement.
Both of my parents loved our friends - grade school, high school, college friends alike; my mom and dad enjoyed watching us surround ourselves with others who loved their kids as much as they did. I am truly happy that my parents grew to know and appreciate all the wonderful friends their children have made throughout their lives.
Later in life I have tried to take many of the lessons my mom taught me as a kid and looked to apply them with my own family. She was an advocate of positive thinking, prioritizing family and friends and always taking time to talk to God and to ask loved ones in heaven for help if you ever needed it. Speaking of help, nobody and I mean nobody babysat like “Grammy” - even with growing families Grammy was always completely fine spoiling an army of kids during the day and being onboard with letting as many kids fall asleep in her bed as possible later that evening.
She spent her final years finding more and more time with her growing group of grandchildren. She was constantly on the run for her family and she never said “no” to any favor anyone asked of her. While she will be deeply missed and she was taken by God too soon, her legacy and spirit will live on through her children and her grandchildren.
I know she is happy to be reunited with my dad, her parents and many more family and friends who are in heaven. And we all know she will be looking down and watching over us, reminding us all that anything is possible with the love and support of family and friends.
From:
Liz Hernandez
She was the loveliest, kindest Porter in the whole wide world. 🍎